Premature ejaculation (PE) means 'coming too quickly'. It's one of the commonest of all sexual problems. Approximately 10 per cent of total men face this problem 'always' or 'often' or 'sometimes' It's more common in younger men - which is not surprising, as there's a distinct tendency for it to improve with age. Men generally get better control as they grow older. This problem is curable. Though not considered fatal, this problem makes people unhappy and frustrated and in severe cases PE can threaten or even ruin a marriage - simply because it spoils the sex lives of both partners. Sometimes, the condition is so bad that the man cannot even manage to have intercourse because he invariably ejaculates before he can get into the vagina. This can be devastating for a man's self-confidence. And it can be hugely frustrating and annoying for his partner, too. However, most men merely find PE a considerable irritation - a condition that makes them 'come' very soon after they enter their partners (say, after only one to two minutes), so that neither party gets a lot of satisfaction.
For many years, sex experts have tended to say that premature ejaculation is caused by early 'conditioning'. In other words, the man's early, rushed (and perhaps furtive) sexual experiences had to be quick - so as to avoid detection! The idea is that all this hectic rush 'conditions' him to climax as quickly as possible. One of the major contributor towards this problem is wrong or misadventerous sex practices during early days. Anxiety too (or 'nerves') plays a part in many cases of PE. If you're nervous, you're likely to come too quickly. That's why many males have discovered for themselves that a small amount of alcohol eases their nerves and makes them less likely to climax prematurely. But alcohol is not recommend as a treatment! In Very mild cases (for instance, if you can 'last' a good five minutes but would like to last 10), there's probably no point in going to a doctor. Because you should be able to improve matters by simple 'distraction techniques'.
This means turning your mind to something else when you sense that a climax is near. For instance, you can:
Think very hard about something totally unconcerned with sex.
Pinch yourself hard.
Bite the pillow.
Some men try to treat themselves with a local anaesthetic gel. This product is advertised to the public as a good way to 'damp down' sexual sensation in the penis. But the local anesthetic can 'dull' the sex sensation for the partner, and secondly because it can sometimes cause a distressing skin sensitivity reaction. In more severe cases, it is best to consult an expert for treatment.
Unani system of medicines is claimed to be a very effective way of treating this problem.